Psalm 30:2 O Lord my God, I cried to you for help, and you have healed me.
The other day the phrase “conditional healing” came up. God gave me a revelation. My healing process became stuck at…perhaps 80%…because it was conditional. I believed that I couldn’t totally heal unless certain things happened.
Ever been there?
- If they would just pay me back
- If they apologize
- If they fix/replace this
- If they say this/do that
That’s really what we are saying. But what if they never do?
When we have that attitude we are, in essence, giving other people the power to heal us or keep us wounded.
What happened to us may not have been our fault, but it is 100% our responsibility to heal.
You may not be at fault. Then again, you might be at least partially. But that doesn’t matter when it comes to healing. I’ll repeat it. Fault doesn’t matter.
You. Must. Heal.
I say this in tremendous tenderness and love. I personally was doing pretty well until I allowed myself to get trapped in my conditions.
True forgiveness isn’t conditional.
Rebuilding trust and relationship is different. But forgiveness is to be freely given for you. It’s not for the other person as much as for us. Forgiving brings us peace, allows us to receive and walk in God’s love, and keeps us in right standing with Abba. After all, if we don’t forgive then we are not forgiven.
Matthew 6:15 but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
I’ve been through abuse. Trust me, I’ve walked through very painful trials. But wallowing in what was, or should have been, or could be will not heal me.
I received a message a few weeks ago on Facebook from a woman. She poured her heart out, describing in detail the pain she’s in. Many have mistreated her.
“When they say they’re sorry…”
As soon as I saw that I knew why she was still hurting. It was also a light bulb moment for me.
We will never fully heal until we put it completely in God’s hands.
Today, I want to encourage you to let go of conditional healing. Surrender it all to the Father. Heal and forgive for you. Choose love. Fill your mind with the Word. For a while bathe it in prayer. But at some point you must let it go. It’s hard. I know firsthand it is. I have never received any of the conditions I held onto in the past. I may never.
It’s ok. My healing is in God’s hands, where it should be. If you’re hurting right now, please do the same. Don’t leave your health up to another person.
Be healthy. Be healed.
Isaiah 53:5 ESV But he was pierced for our transgressions; he was crushed for our iniquities; upon him was the chastisement that brought us peace, and with his wounds we are healed.
Psalm 107:20 ESV He sent out his word and healed them, and delivered them from their destruction.
James 5:16 ESV Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.